Isn’t it only for couples who want to improve their relationship? The workshop has a good track record of helping couples experience their partners and their relationships more positively. Many couples find hope for the future because they have experienced relating in a new, safer way during the weekend. If you are currently in a committed relationship, even if it is very shaky, we do recommend that you come to the workshop. The least that you can expect as a result of the workshop is clarity about what you and your partner should do. Many couples find new hope and optimism as a result of what they learn at the workshop. Occasionally they discover that there has been too much pain and they decide to end the relationship. Even if that is your decision, Imago therapy provides a framework in which you can respectfully say good-bye. This is especially important if you have children that you will be co-parenting.
It will also give you essential information about yourself to take into your next relationship, enabling understanding of how you co-created the current relationship, so that you can take that understanding with you rather than continue to create similarly painful experiences. But for the most part, the majority of couples leave the workshop with new energy, tools and hope for the future. Many couples who have been separated attend the workshop and find their way back into relationship.
Yes, we think the workshop would still be useful. If you are currently in a coaching or therapeutic relationship, it would be wise to discuss your attendance with your practitioner. They will be in the best place to assist you after the workshop for any follow-up. We would also be available to consult with your therapist about the processes taught at the workshop if you and they would like that.
There are no prerequisites for attending the Workshop. Some attendees have done a lot of reading, personal work and personal growth; others very little. If you have time, we do recommend you read “Getting the Love You Want” either before the Workshop, or afterwards.
The Listener, Feb 12 – 18, 2005, had this to say on Page 17:
“If there is one point on which economists, financial brokers, budget advisers and sundry experts agree, it is on the single best investment to ensure sufficient savings, an investment better than NZX shares, unit trusts or equity funds, virtually money in the bank . . . . Relationship Counselling. It sounds flippant, but it isn’t.
The biggest cause of financial impoverishment for the mid-lifers saving for retirement is divorce and separation, say the Listener experts . . . . . . . perhaps an investment in making a relationship work is the best saving any pre-retiree can make.”
Though each provides a different experience, we recommend attending a workshop as soon as possible because it provides an overview and some practice of all the Imago ideas and skills. This can save you time and money in the office, and give you a solid foundation for your individual couples work. The workshop experience has been demonstrated to achieve results comparable to 3-6months of weekly therapy. As such, it is extremely cost efficient. It provides a solid psycho-educational foundation to the personalised work that you and your partner then have an opportunity to integrate. We also find that a shift can occur within the framework of the workshop that is very difficult to achieve in individual couples work, which can mean that the work with an individual coach is then a lot more efficient and effective.
However, we also recommend that if a workshop is not scheduled soon or you are unable to make the next time, you begin ongoing sessions. Also, some couples want to try out a few sessions before committing to the Workshop, and that’s fine. We would be happy to discuss your particular situation with you individually to ensure optimum use of your time and resources.